Over the past eight months, since leaving my 20-year career in television broadcast news, I’ve experienced a transition. And let me tell you, it has rocked my world. TV news is the only career — the only professional identity — I’ve ever known.
At 9 years old and anchoring the morning news for my elementary school in my hometown of Tucson, Ariz., I had myopic focus and an unshakable resolve to sacrifice. That didn’t change as I grew older. During every internship or university course, well-intentioned broadcast news veterans, eager to save us from our dreams, attempted to dissuade us, the starry-eyed hopefuls. Their message: TV news is not viable for the faint of heart.
I would not be swayed.
By the time I was hired for my first affiliate job at KNBN NewsCenter1 in Rapid City, S.D., TV news had been my sole focus for internships in junior high, high school and college. If not this, what else would I do? What else could I do?
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In my 38 years, I’ve lived in eight cities in six states. At 12 years this August, Sacramento is the most-tenured city on my list. The transitions from job to job and state to state always felt doable because, what are a few months, or a year or two, in the grand scheme? I’d already sacrificed so much. It couldn’t all be for naught.
By the time my path led to the City of Trees, I had no intention of settling down. Yet each time a contract came up, I found myself re-signing and establishing those long-elusive roots. In 2016, wooed by an offer to sleep later, earn higher pay and establish more stability, I left one local TV station for another. While this move didn’t require relocating hundreds of miles, the jump proved challenging for reasons I couldn’t immediately understand.
Four months into our marriage, my career shift coincided with that of my husband’s, as he transitioned from professional sports to technology (and later into food-service management). We were both navigating new waters and operating from a place of survival, barely supporting ourselves, let alone each other. Even so, there was far more to my gnawing discontent.
Choosing to build a life in one place — vs. perpetually relocating — provided me an untapped vantage point: I had trained myself to tread unhappy work waters by resting on their transitory nature, but now I had to face my professional discomfort head on. Here I was, positioned in my dream job, in a city I loved, newly married, as physically fit as I’d ever been, and yet I was deeply depressed. It was a perplexing conundrum that I didn’t know how to fix.
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For years, I busied myself, chasing blindly after jobs, running from one relationship to the next, distracting myself with adventure and thrills. Leaving the TV industry created space for me to finally face myself, to be present with what was actually missing from my life: the essential pillars of self-respect, self-trust and self-love.
Part of me wanted to blame the job, to lean in to bitter resentment, when two years into my three-year contract, my station informed me I would be released. However, the immense relief I felt left no room for anger. Stepping back from the industry I’d shaped my life around allowed me to see my unhappiness was never about any job — the job was a mask I wore for protection from the outside world. Morning TV news turned out to be the most perfect hiding place for a terrified little girl who grew into a woman afraid to be seen. I hadn’t had the courage to leave the job, so it was leaving me; the edges of resentment were eased by gratitude.
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My transition over the past eight months has given me opportunities to remain in the present moment, to make friends with the unknown, to face discomfort and sadness without running away, without distracting, without hiding. I’ve struggled. I’ve felt lost. I’ve cried. A lot. I’ve questioned. How do I describe my professional identity now? I’m still figuring that out. Am I unemployed, in between jobs or entering early retirement? I don’t know, and at this point, it doesn’t matter. I’ve been unsure of myself, and all the while, I’ve stayed present with what is. I’ve also stretched myself in personal and professional ways that could never have been possible without first stepping away from TV.
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And now this newest endeavor, collaborating with Comstock’s on a column that links us all: the power of transition and how it serves in our personal and professional development. Each month, this column will highlight tools to navigate transition and the people who have weathered their own private storms of change.
For me, transitioning away from being in front of the camera to turn the lens inward is proving to be my most meaningful move yet.
Comments
Bethany, thank you for sharing your story. #brave #honest #raw #totallygetit #lifeisajourney
Bethany, Congratulations to you on finding peace. Very happy for you. Thanks for all of your support over the years.